Sometimes facing change in our lives can bring up a lot of fears and insecurities. Even if it is a change that we really want, and seems to be a big positive leap in the right direction.
Cheryl Richardson talks about human beings having a “need for safety and security” and that often when we experience some change we may “regress to a younger age” where we may not remember we have the resources that our current (or adult self) has. She says that if we are going through a “positive or negative change”, it is important to find ways to support ourselves, with skills that impact our “thoughts, beliefs and actions.” 1
So when you are facing a change, whether it is really difficult (and feels heart-breaking) or if it is the beginning of something really wonderful in your life (that you’ve been working towards and is finally happening) and if it feels like your very foundations are shifting, it is really worthwhile to take some time out to:
- Acknowledge your feelings
- Maybe get a sense of how old you feel (in the moment)
- Remember that you do have resources available to you
- Utilise a resource to work through your feelings about this change
- Check in with how you are feeling now
Remember the following resources and use them to work through your feelings around the changes you are facing in your life:
Heart Focused BreathingTM Technique 2
- Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area. Breathe a little slower and deeper than usual.
- (Suggestion: you can try breathing in to the count of 5 and out to the count of 5). Do this for 30 seconds or more.
Inner EaseTM Technique 3
- Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual.
- With each breath, draw in the feeling of inner ease to balance your mental and emotional energy.
- Set a meaningful intent to anchor the feeling of inner ease as you engage in your projects, challenges or daily interactions.
Sometimes just remembering to breathe can help us manage (and shift) our feelings or get through our day; and we can only get through one day at a time [and if it really feels hard – just focus on getting through an hour at a time], taking one breath and one step at a time.
Also remember, it is okay to ask for help. If you are really struggling with your feelings about the change, get in touch with a life coach or another professional who may be able to equip you with additional resources and be a helpful companion through the change (positive or negative).
1. Richardson, C. 2017. Navigating Change: Embracing the Ups and Downs of Life through Tapping (presented at the EFT Tapping World Summit 2017). Online: http://www.thetappingsolution.com/blog/tapping-world-summit-2017/
2. Institute of HeartMath, 2014. HeartMath® Certified Trainer, Leader’s Guide Contents: Heart Focused Breathingô Technique, p.17
3. Institute of HeartMath, 2014. HeartMath® Certified Trainer, Leader’s Guide Contents: Inner Easeô Technique, p.21
4. Image sourced: http://ziglarvault.com/7-bold-quotes-to-give-you-mental-strength-when-facing-change/ Accessed 12 March 2017